If you are thinking of beginning a dominant and submissive relationship with another person, you need to be mentally and physically prepared to enter this new relationship. Today, one thing about the world is the ever-changing views on sex, relationships, and partnerships, with the ‘traditional view changing into a modern take on what it means to be intimate with another person. 

If you decide to be dominant or submissive with your partner, you may decide it is time to invest in some accessories to help you with your role-playing relationship.

Before you think about the ear to buy for BDSM role-playing, you first need to have an open and honest discussion with your partner. Make sure you are in a stable and loving relationship that is open to trying new things. The best thing you can do is be honest and tell your partner your new thoughts.

Once you and your partner are on the same page regarding the BDSM idea and who will play which role, you can begin shopping for BDSM gear. You don’t have to spend tons of money on high-quality products to have a good time. Instead, if you are a beginner, you can choose a few staple items that can be used efficiently. 

Some of the basics of beginner BDSM gear involve furniture, ball gags, costumes, blindfolds, whips, and restraints. Choosing what accessories you want consists of asking your partner to see what they would be comfortable trying.

There are beginner bondage kits found in multiple online and in-person stores that are good for when you're just starting shopping for BDSM gear. Beginner kits typically include:

● Ball gag

● Leather hand and leg cuffs

● Flogger

● Eye mask

● Tickler

If you would rather purchase unique accessories for your BDSM gear, some of the most popular options are:

● Satin mask or blindfold - a blindfold is one of the best ways a couple can see what is acceptable and not during BDSM play. Taking away one of your senses heightened the other ones. That is, your sense of touch, smell, taste, and hearing will be increased during intimacy.

● Massage candle - a scented candle can help relax you and set the mood - not to mention, a soy wax candle has a low melting point, meaning you can use it to drive on your partner’s body.

● Hand or leg cuffs - if you are new to using BDSM gear, we would advise you to refrain from using metal cuffs, as they can harm the user and cause panic. Instead, use soft cuffs that will restrain you without putting pressure on your joints or leaving marks. 

● Vibrator - since BDSM role play deals with one person in control and one person ‘out of control’, using a remote-controlled vibrator or sex toy tests the dominant person’s control boundaries. 

Finding beginner BDSM gear doesn’t have to be daunting or difficult. By reading about the different accessories and looking into buying beginner kits, you can start your dominant and submissive relationship with your partner.